How To Avoid Back To School Blues

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Jul 29

As the summer sun begins to set, and the scent of fresh crayons fills the air, it can only mean one thing: back-to-school season is upon us! I love it and hate it. If you are a parent of a preschool and elementary school student, this time of year is a whirlwind of excitement, nervousness, and a dash of chaos. But fear not! Here’s a lighthearted guide to help you navigate the back-to-school season with a smile.

Whether your child is nervous or excited or indifferent, one thing you can start doing to set the tone RIGHT NOW is driving or walking by the school. Don’t even make a big deal about it, just happen to walk by on the way to dinner or the pool. Wave to the school and move on. Do this a few times. You could even play their favorite song or get a treat and play on the playground. Starting to pair positive things (their song, treats, time with you) with being at the school will help lay the groundwork for a good first day of school.

If your child starts freaking out during the first week of drop offs you might just need a reset. Try not bringing it up but doing the little drive by and wave on the weekend on your way to a treat.

I love to bring books and donuts to the playground over the summer so it doesn’t feel like EVERYTHING is changing all at once. Let them play and have fun while they are close to school and to you. It’s in the small moments, trust me.

Ok here are a few more of my little tricks.

1. The Great School Supply Hunt

Remember the thrill of treasure hunts as a kid? Well, think of shopping for school supplies as your grown-up version. Armed with a list that could rival Santa’s, you’ll brave the aisles for the perfect backpack, the most vibrant markers, and enough glue sticks to build an Eiffel Tower replica.

Try to go early so it can be relaxing instead of chaotic. If you can, take one kid at a time and get a little treat while you do it. Use the time to talk about what they are hopeful about for this school year. Instead of asking what they are nervous about, share a story about how you felt at that grade. They’ll probably share if they relate or not. Let your child pick out a special item, like a glittery pencil case or superhero-themed notebook. It adds a personal touch and makes them even more excited about school!

2. The Night Before School

Ah, the night before the first day of school—when anticipation is at its peak and the struggle to fall asleep is real. It’s like Christmas Eve, but instead of Santa, your kids are eagerly awaiting their new teachers and classmates.

Try starting the schooldays bedtime routine a week before so it doesn’t feel like summer fun ends and school starts. Turn bedtime into a mini celebration. Read a favorite story, pick it out days in advance and wrap it up like a present to open that night, talk about what they’re looking forward to, and maybe even sneak in a bedtime snack (shh, we won’t tell!).

3. Picture-Perfect Moments

Everyone does the obligatory first-day-of-school photo. Capture those smiles, the neatly packed backpacks, and the perfectly coordinated outfits (which will last approximately 10 minutes into the school day). These photos are gold and will be treasured for years to come. But here’s my tip: take the photo a week before school. Not only will it be one less thing to worry about the day of, but it will be a fun way to get your child excited for school to start!

Create a fun sign with their grade and what they want to be when they grow up. It’s a sweet way to track their dreams and see how they change over the years.

4. The Emotional Roller Coaster

Preschool and elementary school are full of firsts—for your child and for you. The first drop-off can be emotional. Tears might be shed (and not just by the kids). But remember, it’s all part of the journey. Try practicing saying goodbye on the playground over the summer. Roleplay- ask your child if they want to be the grown up or the kid. Ask them how they want to say goodbye- a hug, secret handshake or something else? Talk about what you will do when you greet eachother. Sometimes kids need that reminder that you are coming back. Talk about what you will do when you see them in the afternoon.

Pack a little note in their lunchbox to remind them that you’re thinking of them.

5. The Art of the Lunchbox

Packing lunches can feel like a daily episode of “Chopped.” Trying to balance nutrition, taste, and a bit of fun can be a challenge. But hey, this is your chance to get creative! Also I am sorry to offer this but to help your kindergartner please have them practice opening their lunch items before they get to school. Their teacher probably doesn’t have time to open everyone’s items so ensure your child is capable of opening their items and feeding themselves!

Use cookie cutters to shape sandwiches, add colorful fruits, and maybe even a little treat.

6. Celebrating the Milestones

Every achievement, no matter how big or small, is a cause for celebration. From mastering the alphabet to making a new friend, these moments are the building blocks of their school journey.

Have a special family dinner or a mini party for their achievements. It’s a great way to boost their confidence and make them feel proud.

7. Embrace the Chaos

Back-to-school season is a mix of structured routines and delightful chaos. Embrace it! There will be forgotten homework, mismatched socks, and last-minute projects. But these moments are what make memories.

Laugh off the little mishaps and remember, you’re in this together. Parenting isn’t about perfection; it’s about showing up, loving unconditionally, and enjoying the ride. Besides, making mistakes is one of the best things you can do for your kids! (link ABC news segment)

So here’s to a fantastic back-to-school season! May your mornings be smooth, your lunchboxes always return empty, and your evenings be filled with stories of new adventures. Happy school year, parents! 🎒✨

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I’m the founder of BCR, host of the Play on Words podcast, a consultant for the Chicago Public Library, and more! On the blog, I regularly share my tips, insights, and knowledge on early literacy.